Why 2019 Is The Year I Say No To New Years Resolutions.

Why 2019 Is The Year I Say No To New Years Resolutions.

Ah 2019, another year has passed us by quicker than the last and there is something a little bit daunting about entering a new year, the possibilities the things that the new year might bring us, sometimes it can feel just as much scary as it can be exciting. But the one thing I didn’t do this year make any new years resolutions, for years I’ve battled with myself trying to come up with goals to set myself for the new year thinking of what it was I needed to do more of or less of and I would always come up with a few of the same ideas, ideas like.. Trying to swear less, going on a diet, try to be more positive, and while yes things like being more positive is a good thing I just decided to stop setting myself these sorts of goals just because it was a “new year” and then beating myself up over the fact that I couldn’t go a week without falling off the wagon.

If there is one thing that really makes me cringe its the whole “new year new me” stuff I really hate that term, why are we waiting for it to be a new year for us to suddenly want to be different people? why are we trying to better our selfs only because its a new year? I’m sorry but if I want to make these resolutions i think January is the worst month to set these goals, its cold its dark and most of us are still left broke from Christmas, we have just thrown ourselves back into work after the Christmas break it can all make you feel a bit down, I like to call it the Christmas comedown.

So many times I hear people talking about how they can’t stick to their new year’s resolutions and then beat them selfs up because let’s face it whatever goal you have ever set yourself and failed it does make you feel like shit.

I actually tried to convince myself to set some and I wasn’t going to tell anyone about them because I thought at least if I failed it wouldn’t be like anyone would be judging, like when you tell someone you’re cutting out cakes and chocolate and you get caught red handing and you get the famous words “I thought you were on a diet” and then you feel like a big old fat failure.

I was going to set myself goals like writing more blog posts in 2019 because lets be honest towards the end of last year I really didn’t write that much and not because I don’t love blogging anymore but just purely based on the fact that I was absolutely exhausted, from the end of November I was working 6 days a week for 10 hours a day I was shattered and so many times I sat in front of the computer half asleep writing absolute crap and that’s when I decided I wasn’t going to write again until 2019 when I was bright eyed and bushy tailed after my Christmas holiday.

Because anything I would have written beforehand would have been just for the sake of it and that’s not what i want my blog to be about, just writng for the sake of it because I felt I had to not because I was actually enjoying what I was writing.

So I decided that I wasn’t going to set myself that new years resolution because if I do end up having a rough or tiring few weeks and don’t end up writing I wont have to beat myself up because I failed.

I think instead of the traditional new years resolution it would be a much better idea to set yourself one goal a month or even one goal a week and it could be something as simple as going to bed an hour earlier than usual, just small baby steps and these are things that are so minimal that could actually make positive changes, and they are also goals that you are not setting yourself for a whole year ahead a whole 365 days of telling yourself you can’t do this or you should be doing that. I feel like little goals over a week or a month are easier to manage and if they stick then carry them on for the next week and the week after and so on. And if one week I dont fancy setting myself a goal  and I  fancy giving my self a break “I can and I am not going to feel bad about it. 

These little goals are much more realistic and are much more likely to stick, so thats why 2019 is the year for me to set myself little goals for the week and see how i go from there, last week was too bring my own lunches to work to save me some money and I actually did it so I will be doing it for as long as I possibly can, but I am also setting myself another goal for the week ahead and that is to tell myself something I’m grateful about every morning before I get out of bed, it might sound silly but I’ve heard through the grapevine that this is supposed to set you up for a positive day ahead but we can only try and see what happens. ( see baby steps )

So my new years resolution is there is no new years resolution.

Do you like setting yourself a New years resolution? or are you more of a weekly goal setter? let me know in the comments below because I would LOVE to know.

Thanks for reading.

K x

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